My (future) Boyfriend's Girlfriend

It is entirely common in this age of dating to go into all of it with a 'menu-mentality.' I am guilty of it myself. 

What do I mean by 'menu-mentality?' 

I mean striking off into the realm of dating with the inevitable list: I want a partner who... 

What follows are all the traits we are hoping to find in another. We conjure an ideal that we then are looking to pull off the turn-table-app-buffet for our edification. 

Recently it has been laid plain to me through meditation and introspection that I want to change my approach completely.

I want to seek to bring forth the things in myself that I want a partner to be seeking out. I want to work on the things I actually have any real power over and impact on. 

So, for the next while, I am going to apply my energy in the following way; I want to be a partner who...

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is generous. To strengthen this area I will work on giving more of myself in more ways. I will donate my money and time to some meaningful causes. I will share of myself with those in need. I will be more generous and loving to myself when it comes to self-care and esteem. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is supportive. I will take holistic care of myself to be stronger so I can be there for myself and for those that I love. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is grateful. I will hone my gratitude by meditating and being specific about all the things there are to fill my soul with thankful, happy energy. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is loyal. I will be more honest and true to myself. I will keep my own promises to myself and others, even when it is difficult. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that listens (for understanding, not interjecting). I will work to be more aware and intent in all of my interpersonal interactions. I will also spend more time in quiet space to better differentiate meaningful sound and communication. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is affectionate and sexy. I will invest energy into taking care of my body (i.e. exercise, get massages, spa treatments, stretch, & please) so it can be healthy and attractive to my partner; and so that I can give more fully of it to him. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that is spiritual and energetic. I will dedicate time to meditation and the tenets of yoga that keep me from being encumbered with the weight of my world. 

I want to be a partner in a relationship that I would appreciate. 

So for the rest of the year, at least, I am going to dutifully put my dating energy into what I am looking to give of myself and not what I am looking to receive. 

 

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